Dayang Nur Iman Alani

Selepas setahun lebih, Akhirnya pada 6 mei 2000 lahirlah puteri kami yang Pertama.Picture taken when alani was 2 months.Dengan kepalanya yang berkuping dan tak mau tidur malam, the girl was really a test to my patience as a mum.She was born when i was 25 yrs and 5 months.One fine day, my hubby balik dari kerja just to find out that i was crying sebab she was crying non-stop since morning dan aku dah tatau nak buat apa dah...

The name always drive people crazy.Masa ni aku selalu pegi checkup dia kat government clinic. Nurse-nurse kat sana selalu complain. Dah la nama ayah dia panjang yang pegi bubuh nama dia panjang-panjang buat apa? Diorang sebenarnya mls nak sebut dan tulis.Dayang Nur Iman alani was not the actual name i planned for her.The name which literally means 'Cahaya Ketinggian Iman' was actually the second choice, come to my mind when i was on the labour bed.It was a long labour pain of 18 hrs and i was so exhausted.I keep on whispering to her at that time "Alani keluarlah...mama dah tak larat" The third was proposed by Deen was Dayang Nur Syafiqah, which later taken by my second daughter.The original name i planned for her was Dayang Nurin Miza, which means 'Dua cahaya Yang berseri-seri'. But after a discussion with her maklang (my sister), i changed the name....Nama ni kan macam jodoh pertemuan dan ajal maut juga...ditentukan dari awal sebelum kejadian kita.So it's destined that her name that she will carry forever is Dayang Nur Iman Alani Bt Datu Mohd Rithauddeen (46 chars....:))



this was Alani and her excited baba when she a aged a few days... not even a week yet.



Alani masa kat kubur neneknya ( ibu mertuaku) masa raya tahun 2000



Di zoo Negara 2004



Alani with baba dan mama on her very first trip to Mount kinabalu in 2000. She was 7 months then


Alani tengah excited tengok kek bday dia.This was her 5th bday...sambut kat kampung sebab masa tu tengah pantang kat Syazwani

Bersanding day

This was the most tiring day in my whole life...dengan 2 pasang songket dalam cuaca yang amat panas.... what i can say is i nearly cooked in that costume...luckily lagi dua pasang tu kira okeh la... so...so tak de la panas sangat.

Look at my face... i really looked like telur kan... macam telur yang kita lukis mata hidung mulut tu... aku rasa sebiji cam telur tu... barulah aku tahu memang muka aku macam biji bacang (ore kelate pangge mace) seperti yang pernah dituduh oleh rakan-rakan sebayaku. Mak andam aku masa ni baru belajar mekap orang... so i dont expect much...since she's my own cousin , aku kenalah bagi peluang kat dia...w/pun aku tahu aku akan lebih lawa kalau mak andam pro yang mekap... riak ke nih... sory ye kak na...tapi sekarang stelah 9 tahun dia dah jadi mak andam yang terrer... betul tak?

We are both so skiny at that time ...but watch out now....i've gain +- 10 kg since then , but my hubby is still the champion, he have gained 25 kg...congratulation to him. Well done , Abang...:) his weight at this time was 54 kg with the height is around 177 cm...But what to do , after all those prosperous years...I can say that i'm doing a good job in taking care of him...:)

We got married after less than 3 years of courtship.To my dearest husband... thank you for always stand next to me through thick and thin.Thanks for the patience to all my antics....Most important, thanks for the perseverence to survive the relationship now and then.I will always love You...

this is what i gave to him as an answer to his proposal 11 years ago, selepas tempoh bertenang selama seminggu...hehe...:

Antara Musim

I
ketika musim mengorak warna
Merah mendung berlalu
Melakarkan untaian sepi
Lalu terkubur ketika
Angin salju mencuri masuk
Melalui jendela

Kalimah mengungkapkan erti
Yang pernah tersirat diantara
Pautan hati yang berderai
Mengalirkan darah tanpa warna


Kata Termetri lagi
Antara sangsi dan percaya
Sering rasa pun pecah
Mengundang curiga dan keliru


Bukan tidak mahu
Menoktah kata dan mengikat setia
Dengan Hadirmu
Berulangkali kukatakan
hati sering berdetak
Dengan rentak sumbang
yang memercikkan curiga
kala hatiku kau sapa
debar pun memuncak
menanti kata yang telah kehilangan makna....



II
Diantara susunan puspa
Mekar megolah warna
Mencorakkan batas ilusi
Menggali dan mengambus mimpi
Hati tersinggah disini
Ketika musim semi
Mendinginkan panas mentari
Menghangatkan embun dihujung rumput


Dititik noktah ini
kuberikan padamu
hatiku, hidupku dan jiwaku
Untuk kau lorekkan dengan warna pilihanmu
Yang kupinta hanyalah
Rentetan perjalanan
Menuju sebuah inderaloka impian
Membuahkan cinta


Disini rasa keras telah menepi
Terimalah sekeping hati.....


15/7/1996 (Untuk suamiku, sewaktu hatiku mula kau sapa)

On the Akad Nikah Day

Ini gambar masa akad nikah in early 1999. Adik aku masa ni umurnya 16 tahun...sekang ni dah kawin pun ... baru dalam 4, 5 bulan kawin.


ni pulak gambar dia masa akad nikah bulan 8 2007

Masa ni aku kerja cincai-cincai kat ACSB kat buki jambul penang.Lepas tu lepas kawin merasa jugak jadi suri rumah dekat2 2 tahun sebelum kerja kat tempat kerja sekarang nih... kiranya full time housewife le hingga la si Alani berumur 4 bln kot.... lupa lak...barulah join kompeni sekarang. Kiranya kehidupan menjadi surirumah ni w/pun agak bosan tapi syok pulak bila dikenang...tambah pulak time tak de anak lagi... makan tidur le jawabnya.... tapi masa tu aku ada kucing tau... tompok nama dia... hubby yang bagi nama...dialah peneman aku siang dan malam.... tompok... mana kau sekarang... makcik rindu kat kau...Tompok ni cam merajuk tau... lepas je aku bawak balik Alani lepas pantang , dia pun menghilangkan diri.Dia tak tau aku dah bertekad takkan pilih kasih kat dia walaupun dah ada anak...kalau dia tau musti dia menyesal lari dari rumah.

Princess Syafiqa

Cha or Syafiqa ...abb for Dayang Nur Syafiqah Bt Datu Mohd Rithauddeen was born on 24 october 2003.Kat kampung aku kat kelantan cha means limbah atau longkang yang busuk yang selalunya menjadi tempat takungan lebihan air dari belakang rumah. So it's normal when we were back home in kelantan people said...."Oh my god, you call your kid cha?!..."(dalam loghat kelantan...:) Even my mum also refused to call her that....so they call her pikah , instead, which sounds even worse to me....



Alani was having a good time with the midwife grandaugther at our balcony.Cha was born when we lived in our apartment near USM( now rented to USM PHD student) before we moved to current terrace house( need more space for the kids to grow...:).

She was born on the Deepavali day in Pulau Pinang...weighted 3.2 kg.Among my kids her delivery was the easiest ...Eventhough the labour pain was not so short about 5 hrs but the delivery process when on smoothly with deen rigth by my side. Masa Alani dulu, dia sampai kat kelantan cuma selepas 2 jam Alani lahir.It's quite crazy...as after the waterback burst at 3 am i asked deen to bring me to nasi kandar restaurant , just to eat my favorite roti sardin.sebab kalau dah bersalin tak boleh nak makan benda-benda tu lagi dah.But i cannot really eat as the pain started to intense.At breakfast, pukul 8 macam tu walaupun breakfast sedap tapi dah tak boleh nak makan. Tapi deen paksa aku makan juga dengan menuang 2 biji telur separuh masak dalam mulut aku.... kah...kah...lawak giler bila ingat , sebab masa dia tuang tu dia cakap...makan, makan nanti takde tenaga nak push...so telan je la walaupun nak muntah...She then, was born 2 hours later.I still remember the doctor said, with so good and encouraging husband next to you, you actually dont need a doctor to deliver...hahha...anyway Abang, thanks for that.



Cha and her grandfather (my father in law) when she was 5. At this age she started to be her father's daughter oledi.If i hold her, dia akan hulur tangan dia untuk capai deen, tak mau kena dukung dengan aku, nak dengan deen je...

Her born , in some ways changed me from the inside too. This was the point where i started to appreciate my husband more... his willingness to take care of me during my confinement, alone , here , touched my heart.Plus it was bulan puasa masa tu. So when he prepare his sahur, he would prepare my breaksfast straight away. We hired a midwife to help with the baby and housechores, but only for about 5 days as she's having a family problem.So left him alone to setle everything until we went back to my hometown after 3 weeks.Friends who visited, expressed their surprise to see he handle everything so well, eventhough he just took 3 days leave.

Alone (with my eldest) at home during confinement gave me ample time to think about anything that i normally ignore before.Sometimes people said it's not good to think too much during the confinement as it can depress your mind... boleh meroyan nanti... hehehe... but with the baby that only woke up to be feed at 9, sleep again till 11, woke up for bath and feed than sleep again till 6, what else i can do? But night was different story la... she normally open her eyes widely until 1.00 then wake up again at 2 , 3 ,4,5....The bad thing was i cannot sleep during the day except for a very short nap.

At this time, i started to block myself from dwell too much to the pass, never ever looked back in tears, just look ahead for a better day...and really...since she was born, i excel (in my own way) in many things.I got promoted,setup my own business, write my own book...etc (only my master degree left stuck until now....hehehe... dont worry, i will pick it up someday....someday...:), to my dearest lecturer if you read this...you sure don't think i'm a slow picker ,rite?).

Abang, still remember the letter that i wrote to you after the confinement? I really meant every single word in the content will all my heart...

After she was born, i just noticed that i have a GREAT husband right by my side to support in everything i do...or will do.


This is syafiqa on one of our many2 trips to Cameron Highland (Wonder why Deen likes the place so much). It could be our 15th? 16th? ...hah....I lost count oledi...but definitely more than 15. We'll be there on 2 min visit every year... 2002 was the worst as i still can recall we have more than 5 trips there...one with father in law then with sister, then brother, then brother in law....not included own on private trips (perhaps two). the picture was taken on 26 Nov 2006. She was 3 at this time...cute?...sure, like mother like daughter la... (alamak boleh kena petir nih...)



this picture was taken in 2004 when syafiqa was just 9 months...



Cha bengang sebab Feri lambat sangat. masa jln2 kat langkawi tahun 2006

Sabah

Haha... this was me at my maximum weight (57 kg)! the picture was taken in may 2004.What i can say is ...oh my god... i looked so blotted.As syafiqa was still breastfeeding at that time, diet was never became an agenda. I eat anything i feel like eating and here's the result. Picture location Timpohon Gate, the last gate you can reach by car before you have to continue hike on your foot, Kinabalu mountain. Alani , the cute girl next to me was 4 at this time , while Syafiqa wasjust 5 months...(not in the picture). We took 5 days off from our paid job and visit my inlaws then have a round Sabah trip. With Deen's sister Waja we travelled from KK up to tambunan, kelupis, sandakan, semporna,Lahad Datu (My father in law hometown) end up at Tawau. The journey was superb. Best giler espcially banyak benda2 yg unik sepanjang perjalanan.... too tired to story aaa... but it's worth of trying...:)


this was at one of the roadside stop , somewhere near Kundasang.



This photo taken at Pasar ikan masin Semporna , for those ikan masin lovers, this will be the heaven for you.Tapi aku bukan tengah pilih ikan masin tau... ikan masin ada kat background belakang nun...

Hubby's company dinner at Bayview beach

17 Nov 07
This year rasanya dah 4th time aku ikut Deen pergi dinner company dia. except for 1 time masa syafiqa kecik, kiranya x pernah miss le aku pegi semenjak dia join company ni. Every year, food, biasa la sama je... 4 season le apa lagi... but he likes it.Nyaris x jadi pegi tadi sebab tak de sapa nak babysit the girls...memula tu babysitter syazwani commited dah tapi tiba-tiba plak dia ada hal. Kami pulak kalut sebab majlis raye Alani's nursery (she's a 'transit' there now, since she start schooling januari taun ni) bermula pukul 3.00. Deen was asked be to be the cameraman, maksudnya kami memang kena stay throughout the ceremony la...dah pukul 5 baru abis dengan nak sembahyang asar lagi.




Then Deen mintak ayah kawan dia jaga tapi aku kesian tengok pakcik tu sebab ...hahaha... the girls sure torture his life nyer. At the then terpaksa gak tinggal dalam sejam sebelum pakcik diorang balik dari town dan mengambik diorang dari rumah kawan Deen tu....berjaya jugak kami pergi dinner tahun ni walaupun bersusah payah.

Down

I just finished my conversation with one of the MARA officer from penang Mara headquarters. It is very dissapointing dan de-motivating, destructing.... i Felt sooo...down... oh my God... this is the person the goverment placed to motivate Malays in Business? No wonder we are still the same after all those years.

Sebenarnya MARA memang bagus, the mission, the vission, the service all good and benificial. Infact MARA help so many people achieve their dreams...Cuma orang-orang cam ini yang men'spoil'kan MARA punya mission.Is this the reason why penang MALAYS are always dalam dilema?

To be honest, this is the first time i contact MARA to ask consultation for my business,and perhaps it is the last. Here's my conversation for your own judgement and review...:) eventhough he sound so friendly, yet the conversation itself is useless, fruitless and what-ever-less.

me: Assalamualaikum...can I speak to ***** **** ***?
**: Ya bercakap.
Me: Tadi saya ada tanya receptionist dan dia suruh saya cakap dengan encik pasal ...

( he interupted without waiting for me to finish my words, sounds like he is so busy to talk to me...come on...i thought its their job to help?)

** : Pasal apa?
me : saya ada tanya , tapi saya tak tau nak pergi ke mana (what i mean is i dont know who to ask)
**: hah?... tak tau nak pergi ke mana?
me: maksud saya saya tak tau nak tanya siapa , jadi saya harap Encik boleh tolong.saya ada business nurseri pokok online...
**: hah kalau nurseri , jangan tanya MARA, kena tanya jabatan pertanian, mardi dan seumpamanya untuk bimbingan. Bila mula bukak nurseri?
me: saya rasa....
**: mana boleh rasa-rasa, buat business tak boleh rasa-rasa.
Me: maksud saya saya mula serius sekitar hujung 2004...
**: kat mana tapak business sekarang.
Me: ya...sebab tu......
**: Mara cuma berikan pembiayaan , selebihnya peniaga kena cari sendiri.
Me: ya saya faham,buat masa ni saya rasa saya tak perlukan bantuan kewangan lagi, saya cuma nak tahu kalau MARA boleh nasihatkan saya kat mana saya boleh dapatkan tanah....

**: Mara tak boleh sediakan tanah... yang tu peniaga kena cari sendiri, sewa sendiri.Takkan semua nak harapkan Mara.Kalau semua nak harapkan MARA teruklah... Kena la usaha sendiri jugak...

At this point , I already lost my hope.This is the first time i called them.They way he lectured me was like i've ask him so many time b4.it's quite difficult for me to understand the way this fellow think, more accurately, the way he behave.

Whatever I do after this, insyaallah i'll never ask consultation from them again.This is really dissapointing. I thought they are good, yet they are so arrogant and always look down to other people.Why? Are they to busy to entertain ikan bilis like me? Or they thought everybody called MARA just for their money? Please la...I called them because i still remember , in one of the course they organized the very same person said, you can always get consultation from MARA , it is not necessary money but anything to help you to operate your business .That's why i did called them.I need help now and i need it desprately but i dont know where to go.My business is expanding and i need guidance, motivation, consultation, or whatever you call it.Money alone will never help me, and for now, even it's tough i can still survive on my own.

Me: Tak pe la... Terima kasih

So i just hang up.I feel so stupid to call MARA and let them jeopardize and ruin my spirit and excitement.In the last few weeks, i keep on thinking to meet them personally and have some chit chat on my business, but since then, forget-about-it.


Prior to this waste-my-time conversation, i did called PERDA and they were good and full of encouragement.Eventhough in the meantime they cannot really help, but at least they some idea on what to do next, which is very helpful.The officer treat me with respect, even congratulate me for having a spirit to do something different.At least i was motivated after taking to them.

Next time if I need help, i know where to go, and it's definitely not to the same arrogant guy.

Well for those who like to know what I do, feel free to visit my page at:

http://melur.com

and remember : Everything starts small !

Corn tree,sometime knows as iron tree or botanically known as Dracaena fragrans is a very popular indoor plant.Infact we can always stumble with it in almost every office.The behaviour of the plant that need less attention compare to other indoor plant make a perfect choice if you are not a plant lover.

Originated from West Africa, the plant has made its way around the globe. Belong to agave family give corn tree an advantage as it is very strong can tolerate a wide range of climate.the plant prefers low light and high humidity.

The wide leaves are long and arc gracefully from the stalk.The huge and strong stucture of the stem and leave turn it as an attractive green furniture to your room.Dracaena fragrans belongs to Agavaceae family, the same family agave, yucca and joshua plant.Same like others in agave family corn tree too can stand the dry zone.Though in its optimum condition the plant can grow until 20 feet tall, but normally as a houseplant the normal height of this plant is between 4 to 6 feet tall.Ovet time the plant loses lower leave revealing bare stem.D. f. ‘Massangeana’ is a popular cultivar that features a wide central yellow stripe on each leaf.


In tropical climate , it is quite difficult to see corn tree blooming. the flower somehow, very attarctive with the special fragrant any flower lover will treasure.To flower, the plant must be a very mature plant.It should be at least more that 6 feet in height.The flower stalk s emerge out from the center of tthe leave whorl and will extend untill almost 3 feet.the The fragrant is very strong , you can smell it even it is more than 100 feet away, especially in the evening. The fragrant normally will last more than 1 week or even longer if it is keep in the office or well protected environment.

Some people believe that the plant will die after flowering.Well, it is not true as the plant will keep on growing.Cutting the flower stalk when it wither is a good idea to boost up the groth rate.Propagation is simple, it can be done through stem cutting.Eventhough the plant bear fruits(berries type) , normally it is propaged using stem cuttings.If you notice that the leave turn brownish it could be because of to much or too litle water.Eventhough it is a tough plant, sometimes mites can get attracted to it.

When the small become less smaller

everything starts from small... i remember this was what i said when somebody from an establish MLM network look down into my small web page , mainly on herbs info 3 years back.The guy...accused me of not having a vision, don't dare to dream big and cursed me ...:) that i will stuck there forever. Well.. now more than three years on the road i still remember what i said..and still believed that everything starts from small....

now when it become less smaller (forgive me for the grammar), more and more people start to visualize a vision that i put years ago.I have one stand that i hold closely to my heart. If you cannot do what you like, like what you do but if you cannot like what you do, try to do what you like.hehe... it's not a tounge twister though...that's what i do ... try to develop something that i love with my heart soul into a money machine...(though now the machine is not fully functioning yet).

For all the support and backup..... i really want to express my gratitude to my beloved husband for believing in me, for strongly stand besides me through thick and thin. For always put his faith in me when others not.For keep on telling me that i'm heading to the right direction and the day of glory will come. To my three lovely daughters that have to spent most of their weekends watching CDs and doing homework in the car,I hope i'm not torturing them.I hope they can understand everything i do, i do it for their own future.(At least they should be grateful that i never left them at home by themselves like most busy mothers will do)...And i hope too... the days of struggling will be over soon. Insyaallah

haha....my blog entry today is so sentimental...anybody cries?

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